“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
Humility is a virtue we admire in others and desire most in our family members, closest friends, and confidants. Unlike pompous people, the humble are a breath of fresh air. Unlike approval junkies, the humble are low maintenance and approachable. Though not perfect, they are generally kind, modest, agreeable, respectful and deferential in nature. They treat others as being more significant than themselves. Best of all, you never sense that humble people want to be your rivals. They aren’t the type to put you in your place. Even when they disagree with you, you sense that they are in your corner. They respect your dignity. They will not disparage your dignity or reputation, nor will they take sides with you in disparaging somebody else. They don’t need to, because ironically, humble people are among the most confident. They posses a solid inner-core and are among the most secure, emotionally healthy people in the world. They make you want to be a better human being. By their mere presence, they call you to a higher ground… to be and become the very best version of yourself, the person God has created you to be. –Scott Sauls, Jesus Outside the Lines
During my freshman year of high school, one of my beloved English teachers shared something during a class that I’ve never forgotten: “Happy people rarely think of themselves. Unhappy people only think of themselves.” The lines have blurred somewhat between Hamlet’s “To be, or not to be” soliloquy and WHY he sent poor Ophelia to a nunnery, but Mrs. Goffin’s simple statement has endured one driver’s permit, two universities, three switched majors, two graduation ceremonies, two internships, three jobs, four states, three apartments and one marriage.
And quite possibly because it’s proven to be true. The self-absorbed are draining – and in a life-chapter where free time is sacred, it’s only fair to prefer the path less traveled by approval junkies. Stay humble – and be kind, folks. Be the type of person people want to be around, not steer clear of. And if you’re feeling down – perhaps it’s time to turn your focus outward – and upward.